Frequently asked questions
Short answers to what families ask most about Tingjing, Sangjit, Tea Pai and working with MYS. For anything not covered here, ask directly on WhatsApp.
About the ceremonies
What is the difference between Tingjing, Sangjit and Tea Pai?
Tingjing is the proposal, Sangjit is the betrothal gift ceremony and Tea Pai is the tea ceremony on the wedding day. They happen in that order: Tingjing first, Sangjit a few weeks or months before the wedding, Tea Pai on the wedding day. Each has its own page: Sangjit, Tingjing and Tea Pai.
Can Tingjing and Sangjit be held on the same day?
Yes, and many families now do, to save time. The proposal and the necklace come first, then the Sangjit trays are handed over. The decor and the run-of-show are then planned for both at once.
How many Sangjit trays are usual?
An even number, most often 6, 8 or 12, and never 4. The exact number is agreed between the two families, following their customs and what will be carried. For a Sangjit, MYS most often prepares 8 to 12 trays.
What goes on the Sangjit trays?
The usual items are jewellery, angpao for milk money and party money, clothing, cosmetics, fruit, dragon and phoenix candles, cakes and two bottles of drink. Each has a meaning, and part comes back as a return gift. The full list with meanings is on the seserahan trays page.
About MYS
Can MYS set up at our villa or hotel?
Yes. MYS has styled ceremonies at private villas, restaurants and resorts across Bali, including The Mulia, The St. Regis, The Ritz-Carlton, Ayana, Kempinski and Hilton Bali Resort. Coordinating with the venue, such as set-up times and decor rules, is part of the organiser service.
Can we rent the trays without the decor?
Yes. The seserahan trays can be rented without the decor. MYS delivers them to the home or venue and collects them after the event.
How far ahead should we contact MYS?
As soon as the date is set, since auspicious dates are often wanted by several families at once. Ideally three months ahead, and at least one month before the event. Send the date and venue on WhatsApp to check availability.
Can we bring our own MC, photographer or make-up artist?
Yes. The family’s own vendors are welcome, and MYS works alongside them. If the family has none yet, MYS can recommend people it has worked with, only when asked.
Our family’s customs are different. Can MYS follow them?
Yes. What goes on the trays and how they are arranged follows the two families’ customs and agreement, not a fixed list. Tell MYS about your family’s customs, for example Hokkien, Hakka, Teochew, Cantonese or Peranakan, and what the parents expect, early in the conversation.
Does MYS work outside Bali?
MYS is based in Bali, and every ceremony shown on this site took place in Bali. Events outside Bali can be arranged, discussed case by case on WhatsApp.
Why are there no prices on the site?
Because every ceremony is designed from scratch, so there is no fixed-price package. Send the date, venue and ceremonies you are planning on WhatsApp, and the owner will prepare a quote.
How do we start planning with MYS?
Send a WhatsApp message to +62 822-3709-4884 with your date, venue and the ceremonies you are planning. The owner replies personally, with no middleman.